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We all have a few goals that have felt too stuck, too big or too hard, for too long. These periodic messages can help you get those stuck goals moving.

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Myth v Reality Brief:  We experience whatever we predominantly think about

I received quite a few very positive and telling responses following our November 25, 2022 message.

I will explain the following statement later but want to get it out there now; each and every one of us witnessed what we thought about.

In our November 25 message, I suggested that you think of an object that you wanted but did not yet possess. I suggested you think about it often and then notice what happens. I noted that you would begin to see your object, or reminders of your object, often throughout your day. And you would thus begin to witness the power of your thoughts.

Many did witness their object showing up in their day, often several times each day, and often in fun and surprising ways. Many also witnessed reminders of their object, even when they did not necessarily see their specific object in their day.

Also, many did not witness their object at all, nor did they even notice any reminders of their object.

I must now explain what I stated above, that each and every one of us witnessed what we thought about. The previous paragraph seems to contradict the previous sentence. And yet, it does not.

You see, every subject is actually two subjects; the subject of having the object and the subject of not having the object.

Those who witnessed their object showing up in their day were focused upon, and thinking about, the subject of having their object. Examples of such thoughts include:

• I really like my object because of <fill in the blank>,
• I love the idea of having my object, and
• I’m just so appreciative that my object exists, that it has been invented and created and is available.

Conversely, those who did not witness their object showing up in their day were focused upon, and thinking about, the subject of not having their object. The word “not” is a very important distinction. Examples of such thoughts include:

• I wonder why I don’t already have my object,
• I can’t imagine ever having my object, and
• It’s so frustrating that others have my object but I don’t.

And so, each and every one of us witnessed what we thought about.

So, how can we tell if we’re thinking about the having of what we want or if we’re thinking about the not having of what we want? Our feelings, our emotions, tell us.

When we’re focused upon the subject of having what we want, we feel very joyful and positive emotions. When we’re focused upon the subject of not having what we want, we feel very unhappy and negative emotions.

On a personal note, having not thought about my object very much lately, it briefly came to mind a few days ago. I was enjoying a coffee, looking out the window. Approximately 30 seconds later, my object drove by, oddly slowly, as if to say, “here you go.” Our thoughts determine our entire lives.

There’s so much more I would like to add and explain, but this is a large topic. We’ll leave it there for now. As many of you already do, you can always get in touch if you desire additional details.

I hope you’ve found something herein to ponder, and may we all increasingly focus upon the having, or the achieving, or the allowing of our currently stuck goals.

These messages will always be brief, informative, thought-provoking, factual and accurate. They will challenge your understanding of life and how we achieve our goals. If you open your mind and heart, they will help you achieve your stuck goals.

Life is meant to be magical. We experience what we believe. If we believe our goals are big or hard, or stuck, that’s our experience. If we believe otherwise, we experience otherwise.

May we all believe in our goals,

Steve

Get Those Stuck Goals Moving

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“The key to having what you want is realising just how much you want what you have.”

-Stephen H. Southern

Myth v Reality

Myth: We humans achieve our goals based upon our work, effort, sacrifice, struggle and toil, along with tenacity and intelligence, and some good timing and good luck.

Reality: It is our habitual thoughts, and it is only ever our habitual thoughts, that determine how readily we achieve our goals. Our actions are merely by-products, outputs, not inputs.

Important P.S.A. Regarding “Success”

We are all equally successful. In fact, let’s stop using the term “successful” entirely. Every human alive today, from the pauper all the way down to the multi-billionaire, and somewhere in between there’s you and I, we’re all equally “successful.” Every human has achieved 99.9… percent of all their goals. And every human has a list of five or six goals that feel stuck, that feel too big or too hard. You have such a list. Whomever you look up to as a “successful” person, that person also has such a list. You’re both equal. We’re all equal. We’ve each achieved just about every goal we’ve ever wanted, except for our personal and unique list of five or six goals that feel stuck. And so, let’s stop using the term “successful.” And please, never allow anyone to make you feel less “successful” or “unsuccessful!” And NEVER do so to yourself!

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